Stop Binary Thinking

  We have a strange difficulty imagining beyond two options. Binary. It makes it so much easier, you guys. It is such an efficient image of the world but the binary poses other problems that outweigh it’s efficiency. The main problem with this system is that it’s so simplistic as to be functionally useless, especially

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A Round Up of Thoughts on Gender: Nope, We ALL do still NEED Each Other

I’ve been spending the last year and half now reliving ALL of my trauma while I try to sort things out.* There’s A LOT of rape, you guys. Like. So. Much. Rape. I lost count a long time ago, and in my triggered state, it made it difficult for me to leave the house.  I

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Stop Trying to Play Petty Dictators

We’ve reached an age where every social event has become incredibly stressful, insecure about our adulting abilities we sit around comparing and acting like the high school kids we should no longer be. “Have you tried MY diet? It’s the best because it is supported by this evolutionary biology theory I don’t really know how

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Still Not Buying Your Hate

“They are our neighbors, our peers, our friends.” I’m sitting in a bar reminding them of the facts. We have to live with these people. Did you never discuss politics with your neighbors growing up? Who were your neighbors? I’m drinking my beer slowly, trying to remind people to be optimistic. Am I pulling off

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To the Moms: Always for me in the Plural

I just sustained another loss, it’s hit me hard and I’m still reeling. It reminded me how important the many women who cared for me throughout my life are. Women without whom I’d be dead and more seriously injured. There were a lot of them who kept me alive, without me having been their child,

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How I’m Still Alive

My life sort of defies sense and so I get a lot of questions about my existence. Usually people are surprised because I don’t have a lot of melanin and they don’t realize that poverty is transracial. The Stanford degrees don’t help. There aren’t a whole lot of childhood sex trafficking victims who went to

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Love like our Lives Depend on it

I hate competing, even in when I’m good at things, for a reason. I’d sooner let someone take the stage than take the stage myself. If you hand me the microphone, I’m handing it off as quickly as possible. My goal as a teacher was for my kids to not need me. I’ve mastered the

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Do You, Boo: A Pro-Woman Rallying Cry

I have a confession to make. I love hanging out with dudes way more than women. I’d rather drink beer than wine or mimosas and I’ll never be caught dead in Chanel. I hate shopping. All of these things are things my favorite girlfriends love to do. As the resident shithead in the bunch, I’m

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Community, Community, Community is Going to be my new Mantra

I’ve been thinking a lot about the way we approach community, and each other. This generation feels isolated, disconnected. Are we really alone in this struggle? The enormity of the struggle seems real, even my rich friends with good jobs can’t afford rent. We judge our friends who struggle and whose lives aren’t picture perfect

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