Category: Writing

If You Fail Kids, That’s on You. Here’s Some Ways to Prevent it

“Ms. Charles won’t let people fail.” As a teacher, I had a virtually unheard of pass rate and my sophomores were also doing research and reading primary source material daily,  and they also wrote daily. I worked at a comprehensive, large, integrated public school. About two thirds of my students are ELL and a little

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Self-care Shouldn’t be Cutting Us Off from Community

Does it sort of feel like everyone’s life is a bit of a mess right now? That’s because life is messy. We’ve reached this weird transitional stage where everyone’s life is both deadly serious and incredibly chaotic. It’s easy in the chaos to focus on ourselves and try to ignore everyone else and if I

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Stop Treating Your Intimate Partners Like Bucket List Experiences

I had just gotten back from China, when I found myself on a party bus with a guy I was seeing on my way to a formal when he said to me “I just feel like I really want to have sex with a Japanese girl.” Facepalm. I had a conniption fit. And in response

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Argumentation: NOT a Rich People Thing

I’d like to talk about two of my favorite Stanford men. Both of them were STEM majors. These two individuals are two of the smartest people I have ever met in my life. Not only are they capable and amused by scientific and mathematical concepts that would made a normal person insane, but they can

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So Convenient to Ignore Our Soldiers These Days

I just wanted to write what will hopefully read as a friendly reminder that our veterans are our concern too. We don’t stop to think about that anymore. It’s not a public holiday like it once was, military service being something that a small percentage of the population is touched by, we are comfortable with

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Updates and Some Quick Thoughts on Friendship and Gender, with ALL the Love, Of Course

Am working on several other projects/still recovering/life is a mess so may have a break in writing longer essays while I submit things and work on bigger projects, but wanted to quickly round up some thoughts I have about things women need to do to support each other: 1) We have got to start talking

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A Round Up of Thoughts on Gender: Nope, Still Just a Tiny Girl and That’s OK

I’ve been spending the last year and half now reliving all of my trauma while I try to sort things out. There’s A LOT of rape, you guys. I lost count a long time ago, and in my triggered state, it made it difficult for me to leave the house. I mentioned this to some

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My Shitheadery Saved Me

When you grow up poor you face an entire social structure that has the same force as gravity. It is there to drag you down until you reach the center of the earth and know your place. I get asked a lot how I managed to escape gravity, and the honest answer is that I

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Stop Binary Thinking

  We have a strange difficulty imagining beyond two options. Binary. It makes it so much easier, you guys. It is such an efficient image of the world but the binary poses other problems that outweigh it’s efficiency. The main problem with this system is that it’s so simplistic as to be functionally useless, especially

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Stop Trying to Play Petty Dictators

We’ve reached an age where every social event has become incredibly stressful, insecure about our adulting abilities we sit around comparing and acting like the high school kids we should no longer be. “Have you tried MY diet? It’s the best because it is supported by this evolutionary biology theory I don’t really know how

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